TCKs and Our Never-Ending Quest for The Inner Ring
It is the regular experience for TCKs/ATCKs. It is, in a sense, what makes the TCK. It brings confusion and tears, mixed loyalties and overcommitment. It is the wish, the desire, to belong. To belong is a profound and human need. But those things that heigten this need in the TCK practically define largelly shape what a TCK is. Many TCKs spend enough time in their formative years to conform significantly, in thought patterns and values, to a society that is visibly, politically, culturally, and linguistically different from them and their forefathers. What are the odds of their really belonging there - in one generation. And yet, the experience shapes both their mind and affections, and (as many know), the TCK may feel more at home in their host country than in their passport country. But in significant ways they still do not belong, for belonging is more than an internal identification - it involves the acceptance among the people that is unlikely to happen in such a short ...